Idle Parenting
Lucy does not take ballet or judo. She does not have playdates. We do not do enriching activities. She goes to school and comes home and plays quietly by herself for hours at a time. We ignore her until she invites us to participate ("Mom, sit here. You're in my class. Don't talk, just listen."). This just-getting-by school of parenting, like so many things in my life, is a tremendous source of guilt. But today, a friend at work sent me this article, and I feel liberated. The author makes a strong case for leaving kids alone, arguing that the neglect of their developing minds helps them, uh, develop. On their own.
So far, so good. I am proud to report that Lucy has never once said to me, "I'm bored."
So far, so good. I am proud to report that Lucy has never once said to me, "I'm bored."

4 Comments:
That article is awesome. It has a voice like David Rakoff (sp?).
Kudos to my favorite daughter! I think you just figured out the parenting thing. Go for it guilt free, and just make all of you happy. I agree with the article cited.
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I know lots of stressed-out families that could benefit from that article. Hurray for letting kids alone!
The next time I see Lu, I promise to ignore her for five seconds every day for the sake of her developing mind.
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